The Narcissistic Twin Flame Dynamic

I’ve spoken with many Twin Flames who have experienced challenging situations with their Divine Counterpart and the truth is no ones journey is easy. Within this article, I am going to speak with you about the Twin Flame relationship and narcissistic tendencies you may experience on this journey. What I will say before I get started though, is that your Twin Flame relationship is not abusive and nor should you accept abuse from anyone. A Twin Flame relationship is one that radiates pure and unconditional love, and you can notice your Twin Soul from the energy between the two of you.

A Twin Flame is no doubt the most challenging connection you will ever experience, they embody unconditional love but they also bring to surface your deepest of fears! You are a reflection of them as they are to you, and your journey is one of wholeness and truly loving yourself. You have to love the darkness, the light and the wholeness of who you are. In order for you to do this, you must delve deep into your Shadow and uncover your deepest of wounds to heal and love yourself once more. Now, you may have thought you have healed many of your wounds and yet when you connect with your Twin Flame, they can all come rushing to the surface. It’s as if they can trigger you at the deepest of levels without them having to do a thing! This is where the Narcissistic Tendencies come into play within the Twin Flame dynamic…

Narcissists have more often than not experienced a troubled childhood, usually abuse from one of their parents growing up. Due to their childhood wounding, they can grow up to have narcissistic tendencies and operate from toxic behavioural traits. From my perspective, they act in this way as a coping mechanism as this is what they have learned through their trauma. Many narcissists are not aware of their behaviour and those that are, are often not willing to change as it truly requires them to look at themselves. For a narcissist to truly change, they have to reflect upon their past childhood traumas and many of them are not willing to go back to that place.

When it comes to your Twin Flame connection, you will experience a full spectrum of emotions; from the highest vibration of love to the lowest feeling of pain and hurt. You will be forced to truly look at yourself, the darkness and the light which can be incredibly challenging at times. If you regard yourself as “The Chaser” or the Divine Feminine, you will often be the one to constantly reach out to your Twin Flame. In the process of reaching out, you will Trigger their Deepest of Wounds which can result in them blocking you or even cause them to act out of the pain the feel inside. As a Twin Flame, you will be able to notice when they are doing this whilst also noticing the love that is felt behind their actions.

As a Twin Flame, your Core Wounds are revealed to you with this connection and much like the Narcissistic wounds, they will take you to the depths of your Soul. When your wounds are triggered at the deepest level, you can act in ways similar to that of a narcissist. This is why I personally believe it is essential for you to respect one another’s boundaries. At times, you may not be aware of the wounds you are triggering for your Twin Flame which is often why they are acting out of their pain and in turn projecting upon to you. The intensity of this connection can bring out the best and worst of you and it is essential for you to honour all that is YOU! It’s my personal belief that your the purpose of the twin flame journey is to make you and break you as you become whole within yourself and rise in love!

If you have a twin flame who is operating from narcissistic tendencies, allow yourself to notice the wound that they need to heal within themselves. You can also notice the wound reflected back at you as you learn to love yourself unconditionally.